Often in the midst of our own drama, we limit our vision. We aren’t able to see everything that is available to us and that solutions are right in front of our eyes. Because the solutions feel so far away, we avoid or justify not being present with our wounding.
For a moment, I moved out of this love and into the shoulds. In the next moment, I came back to reality. Know that everyday, each and every one of us will be faced with these shoulds. Everyday we will move into separation. Everyday we will experience judgment. And everyday, we have the opportunity to come back. We may come back to choice, back to ownership, back to reality and back to love.
Empathy may be a tool to open up to the deepest parts of yourself and heal all wounds. When you shield yourself from the world you create a story that we all require protection from the world. This story moves us into separation, moves us into judgement and moves us into fear.
For years, I have felt so much guilt and shame about being in this relationship that I didn’t allow myself to move through it. I stayed stuck with it, letting the undealt with emotions carry forward into my relationship today. Every year, the anniversary of his death has brought up the opportunity to see the truth in the situation and this year I finally accepted.